HOW TO FIND MR or MRS RIGHT

So you've been dating people simply hoping that one of these days luck will have you stumble across Mr or Mrs Right - the person you will make the greatest connection with, fall in love with and live happily ever after with.  Easy, right? Wrong!  Does it feel like you are not getting anywhere fast and believe that you simply are not having any luck with meeting the right people?  Is the whole dating thing getting you down?  You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and tackle finding your life-partner seriously!

Think you have been doing everything right but you're just unlucky? Think again!  If you are true to yourself, you have been so reliant on luck, that you have forgotten what to look out for and neglected your true needs and desires.  Do you really know what you are looking for in a partner?  What type of personality best complements your?  What are your needs and desires?  What qualities in a partner are not negotiable to you?  What attributes are you willing to compromise with and accept?  What are your career and personal goals?

The reality of this situation is that luck in finding your partner has absolutely nothing to do with it.  If you are like many people, you are probably dating blindfolded, without even realising you are doing so!  Are you unsuccessful and dissatisfied with your dating patterns?  Yes?  Then it is time for you to take a step back to see where you have been going wrong.

Think of it this way - your career is flying because you have spent the time deciding what your ideal job was, then your trained for it, and it probably took many years to get to where you are now.  But, have you put this much effort into analyzing yourself as a person, and then ascertaining the type of partner it would take to be your Mr or Mrs Right?  Probably not!  Quite ironic isn't it?  We take all care and responsibility when it comes to career, but sadly neglect our personal lives. 

To achieve the goal of finding and creating a successful, loving, long-term relationship - you simply must be ready to date!  This doesn't mean it's simply time to move on from your last relationship, it means you have put the time and effort into yourself to work out who you really are, your personality type and defining your goals.

To get to this stage, you really need to take time out, do some intensive self-analysis, and create not only your list of wants, but also your list of needs.  It is then, that you will find selecting the right partner far easier than it has been in the past.  The team at Success has created the winning formula to make this process easier for you - it's called Ready2Date - it's a simple questionnaire enabling us to formulate the type of personality you are, the most likely personality to suit you (who you should be looking for), and it creates your dating list of wants and needs.

Self awareness and assessment of your partner criteria will help prevent you from staying in the dating scene forever.  You must be aware of your actions and decisions, making sure that you do not continue to consistently date the same wrong kind of person.  It’s time to be brutally honest! If that connection you desire in a partner is simply not there, then you must move on. You will not only be doing yourself a favour, but doing what’s right for the other person too!  When dating you must consider the first couple of dates more or less as you do a job interview – you are getting to know them and vice versa.  This is assessment time!

It may sound too businesslike for you, but this is the way it goes in the world of dating.  You must remain courteous and polite at all times, but if you spend your time trying to spare people hurt or disappointment - then you will only be doing yourself an injustice.  It’s time to make finding the right person a high priority, and tackle it with the logic and care it deserves.

Which takes us to this dating tip. Whilst it is natural for you to want to make a great first impression, it is not the most important thing you should be focussing on.  In fact, so many singles out there worry so much about what their date will think, that they totally forget the purpose of the date – and that is to find out whether or not they will find the connection they are seeking.  No matter how good you look and what manners or personality you put on, you will never be in control of what your date will think or feel about you, so set that unnecessary stress aside.  Instead, shift your focus to what you will think about them.  Ask lots of questions. Observe everything about them.  Do YOU like their appearance?  Does their personality appeal to YOU?  Do YOU feel that you are making a good connection?  So, you can see that it is what you think that is important here, because you are the one looking for the right person, as well as certain qualities.  Leave what they think, up to them!

The fear of being not finding “the right one” can lead you to make wrong decisions – and possibly pursue people who you know are not right for you.  You will probably try to convince yourself that maybe you are too picky and being with anybody, even if you are not crazy about them, is better than nobody.  You need to stop kidding yourself!  You do not have to compromise for fear of not finding what you want and need! Nor will you be single forever!  Being completely honest from the start will get you where you want to be and with whom you want to be with.  

You should never fear that you could scare someone off by telling them exactly what your expectations are and the type of relationship you are seeking.  Look at this way, if they don’t like what they are hearing, then it is a sign that they were not looking for the same thing as you - so you are not wasting time and you can move on to dating someone else who more closely matches your criteria.

As long as you are honest with yourself, don’t make excuses, set your partner criteria and don’t deviate from that, and be clear with the people you date, then you will be safe from too many misunderstandings and frustrations.  As soon as you start to treat your goal of meeting Mr or Mrs Right seriously, then you will stay motivated to find them, and when you do – and you will - you will finally be able to begin the kind of relationship that you have always longed for, needed and deserve!

If you would like to try the Ready2Date system then

email us now or phone 1300 794 345. 

ONLINE DATING Vs MATCHMAKING
Remember years ago, to admit that you had been “internet dating” was certainly something we were all frightened to confess? Nowadays, it seems that if you haven’t tried to find love online, then you haven’t really given dating a shot! And, now with the rapidly increasing SOS society (that’s Singles who OutSource), personal matchmaking is rapidly becoming more socially acceptable and the unattached are realising the value in hiring a professional to assist in their search for a soulmate.

So, why exactly do people take the plunge and retain the services of a personal matchmaker? Is it because online dating is simply too big now? Is the haystack just so enormous that you have minimal chance of meeting someone right for you? Is it the personal connection and security involved with dealing with a professional matchmaker that is drawing singles in their thousands? We think it’s a small investment for the opportunity to fast-track fate!

Steven, Sydney
Yes, I secretly gave the internet dating thing a go – but I wasn’t game to tell anyone about it. I met 3 ladies via this medium, but for me it wasn’t to be. The ladies I met were lovely in their own right, but I found “screening” online profiles to be quite time-consuming and ultimately the ladies I met were not what I was expecting. Currently, I’m a happy customer of Success and am enjoying the personal service my matchmaker provides – including screening OUT those whom I wouldn’t want to meet.

Miss Anna, Melbourne
I couldn’t believe the dishonesty of people online – do they really believe we won’t be able to work out they are 10 years older than what their profile claims? After 2 dates with men who could really have been my father, I am seriously considering contacting you for some help.

Dianne, Sydney
I found this site by chance – wow, it looks like the place to be. I haven’t tried internet dating so can’t give constructive feedback in that regard – but this idea of a personal service looks like my kind of deal!

DATING DISASTERS
We've all had them! Whether we want to admit it or not - we have all experienced a dating disaster (or two!).
Frequently we hear the horror stories from our members about first dates gone wrong, blind dates set up by sisters or work colleagues, even tales of internet dating deceipt....
You are certainly not alone - disasters can happen to the best of us! Here at Success, we are continually amused and bemused by the dating disasters we here of. Go on, get it off your chest and share with us your dating disaster!


Greg, Sydney
You're not kidding! I've now met 2 women who blatantly lied in their online profiles. One claimed to be athletic and kept fit with regular running and gym - but I doubt she's ever done a day's exercise in her life. The other assured me she was "late 30's" - I should have known by her elusive answers shouldn't I?! She was late 40's - at least 10 years older than me! I give up!

Julia, Sydney
I met a "lovely" man through a friend - it wasn't really a blind date as she had invited us both to a party where we were introduced. He asked for my number and phoned a couple of days later to invite me to dinner. Well it was an interesting night to say the least! He was 15 minutes late in picking me up - which I could have excused - except for the fact that he had been at the football and needed to go via his house to get ready!! Half an hour later (after being offered a beer whilst I waited), he was ready to go. We were finally on our way - or so I thought! His car wouldn’t start - things were going from bad to worse. Finally we were in a taxi on our way to our first date - not that I was in the mood now. Dinner was 'unusual' - let's just say after he ordered a drink, his entree, main and dessert without even considering what I may like - he finished his meal by licking his knife!!

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